Arrested Development

At what point should secrets be told and fears challenged?  Entire communities are held captive by many forms of Arrested Development.  Various elements contribute.  The most common are single parent homes, sexual abuse issues, no snitching concept, and the ADHD Meds epidemic.  Understand that Arrested Development can be described as a situation/occasion that is disturbing enough to cause a disruptive mind altering conclusion that affects the normal learning and growth process.  It can progress at a snail’s pace or rapid speed.

Single parent homes can be just as successful as the two parent homes.  Whether a child succeed or not may be determined by if they’re receiving love, limits, discipline and consistency.  It sounds simple, but it can be as simple as that.  As a parent you can’t get “tired” half way thru the process of raising your children.  You must stay vigilant from newborn to adulthood.  If you feel like you’re losing them, get help quickly.  Because if the streets get them, you may never get them back!!

Sexual Abuse can singlehandedly destroy a beautiful mind, and possibly create an abuser.  The most disturbing is perpetrated by someone you’ll know and trust.  In those situations, the abuse may occur more frequent.  Victims tend to mentally carve out a safe place for themselves where no-one else can ever reach them.  Through out the rest of their lives they will try repeatedly to summon those moments before the abuse occurred, in hopes of undoing the abuse and changing their circumstances.  Their sense of reality and security is different from those never abused.

ADHD Meds are a blessing for some and a curse for others.  What’s most impressive with the ADHD concept is the fact that certain programs will compensate the parent on a monthly basis when their child receive meds for their hyperactive behavior.  Personally, I think it’s a set-up for failure, and I believe the public school educational system in this country has failed the children considerably.  Instead of challenging the kids they prefer to subdue them.  The ADHD situation is a huge pie with many hands in it….pharmaceutical companies, lobbyists, doctors, teachers, parents and the educational system.  It’s sad to watch.

The No Snitching Concept has been in play for ages.  I’ve never understood why the rules weren’t improved upon over the years due to the detriment in our communities.  Surely there’s more to it than simply “no snitching”.   I believe a part of the “missing” policy was that there will be no snitching because the community itself will handle the problem accordingly.  That type of activism was last seen in the late 60s.  This too is sad to watch, and it explains why our youth are in the streets not giving a damn.